Counselling is not about telling you what to do or giving you advice. It is about giving you the time and space to talk about what worries you, so you can find your own way through the problem and to discover your own inner strength that will help you in the future.
Going to see a counsellor provides you with a safe, confidential space and time dedicated to you and whatever you wish to talk, or write about, with a person who really listens to what you have to say, will follow where you go and tries to understand how you feel or act the way you do. This person is someone who will not judge or criticise you.
Sometimes you don't feel able to talk to friend and family if the problem concerns them. At other times you don't want to worry them. This is when a counsellor can help you, they are not connected to anyone in your family, they are independent and impartial.
By exploring things together you will be able to find your own way forward. You will develop a greater understanding of your feelings and emotions, find ways to change them if you wish or accept them and feel able to face life again.
How I work
My approach is Person-Centred. This way of counselling, developed by Carl Rogers, believes that each person has the resources, the strength and knowledge they need to resolve the problem, to develop and move forward with their lives inside themselves.
With a counsellor offering the '3 core conditions' of empathy or understanding, congruence or being who they really are at any moment and unconditional positive regard or respect and acceptance, the client will be able to discover their own internal strength. If there are holistic ways of managing symptoms that trouble you then I can offer easy, practical exercises you can use for yourself, e.g. breathing deeply or grounding yourself in your surroundings.
It is not simply a way of working for the Person-Centred counsellor, it is a personal way of life and belief.
I believe that each person has the innate human ability to heal themselves, within themselves and by offering a supportive, therapeutic relationship in counselling this healing can occur.
Links to other sources of help
Cruse Bereavement Care: click here to visit their website
Norwich Branch: 01603 219977
MIND: click here to visit their website
Norwich Mind: 01603 432457
Macmillan Cancer: click here to visit their website
Freephone: 0808 808 00 00
Samaritans: click here to visit their website
Norwich Samaritans: 08457 90 90 90
Freephone: 116 123 (not shown on phone bill)
Natural Therapy Clinic: click here to visit their website
Dying Matters: click here to visit their website
Raising awareness of death, dying and bereavement
Animal Thoughts: click here to visit her website
Pea Horsley - Animal Communicator
The Ralph Site: click here to visit the website
Pet loss support
Star Throwers: click here to visit their website
Caring for those affected by cancer
Anxiety UK: click here to visit their website
Information for those suffering from anxiety, panic attacks and phobias
Nelson's Journey click here to visit their website
Is a charity dedicated to supporting bereaved children and young people in Norfolk
SOBS (Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide) click here to visit their website
Is a charity supporting those bereaved by suicide with lots of information and runs a Norfolk support group in North Walsham
Papyrus click here to visit their website
HOPElineUK: 0800 068 4141
Telephone line hours: 10am - 10pm weekdays, 2pm - 10pm weekends and 2pm to 5pm Bank Holidays
Organisation to help prevent young suicides - for people under 35 and support for those concerned or working with young people who feel suicidal